Christian mom blogger Glennon Doyle Melton has announced her engagement to soccer star Abby Wambach. Glennon Doyle Melton has reiterated for years her position affirming that same-sex marriage is not sinful and celebrating love in various forms. And because of all of that love, they are brave.” Melton’s coming out follows fellow inspirational author and friend Elizabeth Gilbert, of “Eat, Pray, Love” fame. Feels like the world could use all the love it can get right now. https://t.co/3Ku DQ4e0Su pic.twitter.com/6vvx Bq NUj4 — Glennon Doyle Melton (@Momastery) November 14, 2016 Melton’s news comes three months after she announced her divorce from Craig Melton, her husband of 14 years, and two months after Wambach told the media she was divorcing Sarah Huffman, her wife of three years, in the wake of a DUI arrest that pushed her to confront her addiction to alcohol and drugs.
Melton and Gilbert have appeared on her career-making book list and popular programs.
Though many of them had positive observations, a lot of what they had to say dealt with their male companions being self-centered, boring, arrogant, duplicitous, needy and/or unwilling to commit (sometimes, impossible as it sounds, at the same time). Just know that you look great to many of us older guys with it or without it. You Probably Want to "Have It All" and Are Not Willing to "Settle". (I did.) After decades of living, we all have a lot to convey, but it makes for a better date if listening is a mutual activity. You don't want to waste your time, I understand that. Money is probably not a great date topic even if it's really, really important to you! But it also isn't 1870, and if there is mutual attraction, at this stage of our lives, waiting a long time -- whatever that may be -- seems equally foolish.
But if you've already made the determination that he's worth a date, see where it goes for a bit before passing judgment. I got this text before a date (which I then declined to go on): "If you don't have a substantial retirement in place or big income, we will not be a match." Other dates have said they are only interested in rich men. And one actually put forth the idea I should write her monthly checks. Just as men shouldn't talk about or expect sex too soon, women should appreciate that most of us -- male and female -- aren't on these dating sites solely for someone to hike with or take to the opera (some are, but not most.) When sex comes up, a frequent comment from women, is, "This isn't 1970. Yes, there are often wide differences between men and women in the emotional attachment created by sex.
A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. -- Stop worrying about how your body looks at your age. And those chunky men you're with have no room to complain. Women's faces are THE most miraculous creations on earth. There's truth to the maxim that older faces reflect character and wisdom. I had pointed out previously to men that some of things they say on dates aren't particularly wise. Just as I advised men to stop talking and LISTEN, it's beneficial when it goes in both directions.
This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. And while I'm confident men over 50 are generally worse at dating than women of that age, I'm equally sure that both genders can learn as they navigate new relationship terrain. Mature women take much better care of themselves, as a rule, than mature men. Regardless, women's bodies -- whatever the age -- are the second most miraculous creations on the planet. If a guy criticizes your body, point him toward a mirror and move on. I've never understood the myths fostered by the makeup industry, but if you want to wear it, okay. When women say they don't want to settle, it never comes across sounding good. I have had dates where for two hours, I was not asked a single question or had an opportunity to talk for more than a moment or two. They left not knowing if I had children (I do) or parents! This goes for both genders, but women over 50 seem to want to size guys up right away in terms of their long term relationship potential.